Wedding Day Photos

It’s been 8 years since our beautiful May 21st wedding day in sunny San Francisco and somehow, I’ve never shared a collection of our wedding photos before. I was 20 during our 10 month engagement and by that time had what I liked to call ‘my wedding binder’ filled with pages torn from magazines and books and hand written lists i’d been curating since my adolescence. This was before Pinterest (!!!) so all the ideas from a doughnut bar with shot glasses of milk to backpacks to keep my little flower girls entertained during the ceremony came from ideas that came to me in the middle of the night. There were some odd balls in that binder, sure (all gold everything, I’m looking at you) but my taste then was very similar to what it is now and I’m so happy with how the vision came together for that day. Our wedding was also featured in Brides magazine the following Spring so if you’d like to see the online version of that feature, click here. 

Because, Marriage.

This wasn’t the post I had scheduled for today. In fact, it’s 8:48pm and I’ve just started writing. It’s one of those times where I have so much to say but I know the time is tender and the words need to be few. Let’s talk about marriage. 

My 7 Favorite Resources for Strengthening our Marriage

I’m so thankful to have had such a beautiful portrait of marriage to look up to my entire life. My parents are the ooey gooey type, dancing to Marvin Gaye in the kitchen and keeping their regular date night- but they also portrayed what marital conflict looked like and what inviting God to be that “third strand” really meant. I knew from such a young age that marriage took work, but also that marriage was a union I so looked forward to spending my life being sanctified through. I foolishly thought taking mental notes from my parents marriage would give me a leg up on the whole ‘marital struggle’ thing. Then I got marriage and my mental notes all mocked me and the joke was on me because turns out, no two marriages are alike. Who knew! 7 years into oneness with my husband, I’m more aware than ever that I need the grace, leading and example of Christ to help me love my guy the way he intended. I’ve also made it my job to be a student of marriage for the rest of my days. Here are the 7 resources that have shaped and molded our marriage.

Keeping the Joy in Marriage During the Holidays

Christmas is right around the corner and we. are. busy. We are busy grocery shopping. We are busy cleaning the house and getting things ready for guests. We are busy with the Elf on the Shelf (not us yet, but I see you out there workin’ your butts off with that thing). We are busy attending corporate parties and celebrations with friends. We’re busy serving at church and serving in our communities. We’re busy waiting for bonuses and vacation time while planning class christmas activities and pinteresty crafts. In all the Holiday hustle and bustle, we can often overlook our marriage.

Guest Post from Mama Bear: Why Date Night Matters

When I was visiting my family a few weeks ago, my sister asked me a simple question that prompted me to take a long hard look at my marriage-specifically my role as wife. She was sitting in the back seat, I was doing my mascara in the front seat and my mom was driving. My sister is a newlywed and often picks our brains about marriage, so I wasn’t surprised to see our conversation steering that way again, but what she said caught me off guard. “Mom, Jill, what would you both say are your best tips for keeping your husband in that first-place spot in your life.”