Last week, I rounded up some questions I’ve gotten on Instagram around the topic of marriage. I chose the questions that were asked most frequently and also some unique ones I found interesting. You know how it goes with these posts, friends. Come back when you have a cup of coffee in hand and some time to spare because there are a whooole lot of words coming after the jump.
Last week I shared in an Instagram story that O and I limit spending aside from groceries to once or twice a month. We started this routine in the summer after realizing there was just way too much spontaneous spending going on (think lots of Amazon boxes and phantom “needs.”) I received so many questions on what that looks like, why we do it and how I feel about it so let’s dive in.
It’s been 8 years since our beautiful May 21st wedding day in sunny San Francisco and somehow, I’ve never shared a collection of our wedding photos before. I was 20 during our 10 month engagement and by that time had what I liked to call ‘my wedding binder’ filled with pages torn from magazines and books and hand written lists i’d been curating since my adolescence. This was before Pinterest (!!!) so all the ideas from a doughnut bar with shot glasses of milk to backpacks to keep my little flower girls entertained during the ceremony came from ideas that came to me in the middle of the night. There were some odd balls in that binder, sure (all gold everything, I’m looking at you) but my taste then was very similar to what it is now and I’m so happy with how the vision came together for that day. Our wedding was also featured in Brides magazine the following Spring so if you’d like to see the online version of that feature, click here.
This wasn’t the post I had scheduled for today. In fact, it’s 8:48pm and I’ve just started writing. It’s one of those times where I have so much to say but I know the time is tender and the words need to be few. Let’s talk about marriage.
I’m so thankful to have had such a beautiful portrait of marriage to look up to my entire life. My parents are the ooey gooey type, dancing to Marvin Gaye in the kitchen and keeping their regular date night- but they also portrayed what marital conflict looked like and what inviting God to be that “third strand” really meant. I knew from such a young age that marriage took work, but also that marriage was a union I so looked forward to spending my life being sanctified through. I foolishly thought taking mental notes from my parents marriage would give me a leg up on the whole ‘marital struggle’ thing. Then I got marriage and my mental notes all mocked me and the joke was on me because turns out, no two marriages are alike. Who knew! 7 years into oneness with my husband, I’m more aware than ever that I need the grace, leading and example of Christ to help me love my guy the way he intended. I’ve also made it my job to be a student of marriage for the rest of my days. Here are the 7 resources that have shaped and molded our marriage.
We spent last week in New York and as suspected, we had the absolute time of our lives. This was our fourth trip to New York together and every time we go, we discover new favorites and we can never find the time to see everything on our list!