Why We Chose to Homeschool

It’s such a strange thing to type, “we chose to homeschool.” Have you ever stumbled into a life you’d never choose for yourself but know beyond the shadow of a doubt it’s what’s right for you, right now? That’s where I find myself. I still wouldn’t be able to say I “chose” to homeschool, but I can say this with full confidence: I have been called to homeschool this year and I’m going to offer my desires, ideals and fears up every day to see what the Lord has in store through this year with my guy.First, let me say that I don’t believe homeschooling is the right option for every family. Not at all. I believe God will lead us so clearly in the direction we should go as it relates to schooling.

Growing up, Homeschool was all but unheard of. I heard stories and stigmas about homeschooled kids, mostly that they were weird, socially awkward, sheltered or any synonym to those three unfortunate labels. I had 6 siblings, all of us two years apart. By the end of summer (or even a long weekend) my mom was practically kicking us out of the house. She was SO productive while we were gone! She cooked, she cleaned, she watched daytime television and kept up regular appointments at the nail and hair salon. She had a quiet house for nearly 8 hours a day. I couldn’t wait for days like that! It was my actual “stay at home mom” dream-the reward for all the diapers and lack of sleep hours on end with a baby suction cupped to my body at all times. Guaranteed free time when they turned three made up for all of it.

When we moved to Virginia after three months of marriage and three years before we’d find out we were pregnant, The Lord started gently whispering homeschool to me. Our pastor’s wife, Ms. Cynthia, had homeschooled their 7 children for 20+ years. It was the first glimpse I had into what it truly looked like and all the myths I’d heard of homeschooled kids as a child were immediately debunked. O wasn’t subtle about telling me how badly he wanted me to do the same, so to express to everyone and make it suuuper clear, I was as vocal as possible. I had to throw in a reminder to let him and anyone listening (yes, even Him) “I would never homeschool.” “I wasn’t meant to homeschool!” “I’m not a homeschool kind of mom!” “I don’t have the personality!” I declared it all- all the time- just to be safe.

But then, as time went on I felt an agitation in my spirit. That sweet peace I’d had all my life dreaming of long days of “free time” and “me time” were becoming more sour than sweet. Like that time in college when I knew I wasn’t supposed to eat McDonalds again but I pulled up to the drive-thru anyway because they’re just fries! And everyone eats the fries!

But the salty, magical fries didn’t taste the same.

They were the same as they’d always been, but knowing they weren’t for me anymore robbed me of any enjoyment in them at all.  And that was that.

I’m not one of those moms laying on the carpet snuggling and playing trains with my babies all day. That vision I get of watching a mom in slow motion, laughing as her child dumps out a bag of flour just isn’t how I’m wired. I’m more the drop my kids off, cry thinking of how much I miss them, then blissfully go workout, work and finish my chores while listening to podcasts type of mom while wondering where the time went type of mom. I was actually terrified at the thought of not having that alone time worked into my day and just couldn’t move past it until one day when Ms. Cynthia explained something to me that went through my ears and right into my heart.

 It was enough to shift me from saying “I’ll never homeschool,” to “I don’t want to homeschool” and finally, “I’m homeschooling.”

So here we are. And guys, it’s hard sometimes. I so love spending time with my littles. We’re using The Peaceful Press Preschool Curriculum and it’s just lovely. A few days in and my sweet boy is already thriving. None of those things are the hard in all this-it’s the post from each and every mom I know talking about classrooms and teachers. Playdates and birthday parties. Christmas recitals and field trips. It’s the loneliness of it all. In a season where in everything from my body and health to time and how it’s spent seems to be handed to me already decided, this was the bright, heavy cherry on top. But already, one week in, I’ve grown. I’ve been made aware of my own shortcomings and had to face things I didn’t even know were in this heart of mine. I have this wave of peace coming over me in finally seeing that Oshiolema will thrive wherever he goes- it’s me that needs this lesson.

He is beaming with pride, reminding Keogena this is “his school day!” and “his important work!” And as he teaches me about seeds and how bees transfer pollen I’m just amazed by God’s kindness. For an often too-busy, always present but not actually present mom, homeschool is my speed bump. My reminder that if I didn’t slow down, I would miss it. And this is exactly where I’m meant to be.

It’s exactly where I want to be.

We plan on joining a field-trip group here in Dallas and with Soccer starting next week, his KidStrong class and Keogena’s gymnastics, I know the loneliness wont last long. If you’re homeschooling as well, I’d love to hear from you! All the tips, please and thank you!

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  • Stephanie 3 years ago Reply

    Hi Jill. Thank you for your post. I’ve felt a nudging too and a curiosity in homeschoolinh my three and a half year old. But know next to nothing – would I start at 3 or 4? What curriculums are out there and how does one decide? How many hours a day does homeschooling a preschooler involve? Did you worry about your son not having daily extensive interaction with peers? How did you prep your son and your space? So many questions! I wonder if you can lend some more guidance to another fellow mom who is curious (surprised to find myself curious about it, as you where) but also lost!

    Jill 3 years ago Reply

    If it makes you feel any better, I’m one week in and know next to nothing too! The only thing I know for sure is that He will lead us every step of the way and He as equipped those He has called. All we need to do is follow in obedience! I answered lots of those questions in the post but I’m just surrendering all of it. We do have plans to join a local group for field trips and he’ll do other fun extra-circulars like soccer and his other gymnastics class. That certainly helps with the peer side of things!

    Kia 3 years ago Reply

    Stephanie, I am a homeschool mama who currently has a kindergartner and 2nd grader on my hands, so I am still new to this journey. Jill’s story about how her husband wanted to homeschool but she made it clear that she wasn’t interested in the beginning, that was me completely. Similarly, a woman at church who was homeschooling her 7 kids gave me wisdom and guidance that helped me tremendously. I will pass what first few tips she gave me along to you:

    1. Go to a homeschool convention near you. This gives you an opportunity to see curricula up close and ask all the questions. It also lets you see the community of homeschooling families…again, ask them all the questions too. Lastly, the featured sessions on various topics like “preschool learning” can be so encouraging and (I bet you know what I am going to say next) it gives you an opportunity to ask all the questions. I went to my first local convention here in AZ when my first born was just 2 years old. It was extremely helpful for me and even got me excited to dig deeper into learning about homeschooling after the convention.

    2. Homeschooling a preschooler is fun and gentle. There are a number of curricula out there. The one that Jill mentioned from peaceful press is great!!! There is also one you can look up via Instagram “the busy toddler” that looks like fun. I might be grabbing this one for my 3rd little one. The actual time it takes its long. I spend about an hour on preschool (the actual formal part) but weave what we learned into our day and engage my kiddo naturally.

    Follow your kiddo’s interest and weave simple concept in that way. Currently my 3 year old is into sharks so we count sharks and point out colors of the different fish sharks eat. We checked out every book we could find on sharks from the library.

    3. The last thing this homeschooling mama told me is to never underestimate the power of simple playtime. You learn so much about you kids when you play with them. She also told me to grab ideas from Pinterest to help guide our playing.

    I hope that might help you along as you look into this form of schooling.

    One more personal thing I would add is to take the education of your kids a year at a time. You may homeschool for a year and decide a different avenue suits your family bette (or vice versa).

    Take care!

    Jill 3 years ago

    This is so helpful!! Thank you so much! I’m going to look into a homeschool convention for sure!

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