Mother’s Day is this Sunday. What does Mother’s Day stir up in you? Before becoming a mother myself, it only sparked joy. Well, that “only” doesn’t include those awful teenage years where I felt apathetic at my best and distaste at my worst towards my own mom. Aside from those ugly years, this Sunday on the calendar always makes me smile. The mothers in my life and the children that made me a mother myself overwhelm me with gratitude for God’s kindness, but this is the first Mothers Day approaching with a tinge of sadness. Last Mothers Day, I was pregnant with our third baby. This Mothers Day, that baby is in heaven and I’m still not sure when another child will call me Mama again.
Screen Time feels like a hot topic as soon as kids enter the toddler phase. I’ve received the question countless times in the past few years and it’s one I can’t quite put a finger on why we’re all so curious about it. I love learning how another mom manages screen time. I think it gives a behind-the-veil peek into family life and the nosey part of me is all for that. On a deeper level, though, I believe we want to do that age old “match a mom” thing. A mom you admire doesn’t own a TV or allow any screens for her kids? Suddenly you’re rethinking what works for your family. A mom you admire is cool with all.the.screentime? Then and only then do you feel “freedom” to do the same. Does this sound familiar?
In December, I took the kids to the trampoline park. We wind up there often, especially after particularly challenging or exciting weeks. After wandering around the trampolines, dodgeball areas and foam pit, Lema ended up at the basketball station. He walked up next to the single file line of big boys and stood next to them. I yelled to him, “Lema! You’ve gotta hop in line, bud!” He looked at me like he does many times throughout the day. It’s a look that says “what do you mean?” That’s when it clicked for me. My three year old has never had to stand in line before. It wasn’t a great feeling.
In the winter months especially, I rely heavily on predictable pieces that fit into three criteria: 1. It has to be comfortable. 2. It has to be effortless. 3. It has to be flattering. Winter adds one more crucial criteria: it has to keep me warm. The items that fit into this category win a spot in my Momiform. A momiform is, loosely, a uniform of sorts that makes getting dressed every day for life with your kids a no-brainer. Today, we’ll talk about identifying the pieces you reach for most and evaluating if that has been intentional or unintentional. On Thursday, I’ll share the actual pieces I call my MVP during this January-March stretch.
For the month of January, O has been in San Antonio while the babes and I are home in Dallas. Let me just place a disclaimer here to say before this month, the longest O has ever been out of town is one week. Thats right-seven days
, friends. To all the single moms, military wives, NFL wives and the like shaking their heads at me-stick around! I crowd-sourced tips for systems and routines to be as productive as possible when you’re doing all.the.things.
The Holiday season throws more curveballs and new experiences at our kids than a Disneyworld ride. One day we’re cozied up on the couch with hot chocolate, the next we’re all “no sugar! no television!” One weekend we’re at a party where they’re running around with kids and playing all the games, the next we’re at an extra church service where they can’t talk or move. It’s a bit unfair to expect them to adapt to every situation without a little preparation–thats where “the pep talk” comes in.